I’ve found that the best way to cope with death is to write a letter to your loved one. This recollection arrives after the two year anniversary of my father’s death. I am visited by the memory of writing letters to my late friend. I wrote letters to my friend nearly every year until the grieving eased or at least I felt a little more at ease. At the time I was in high school and dealing with my friend’s death. I guess at that time, I probably felt that it was unfair for a great friendship to be taken away. Anyways, those letters which ended up being composed as poems helped me deal. Some I’ve kept while others I imagined the wind carrying them away.
Everyone’s coping process is different but writing for me at least, has helped me find some sort of closure. These letters can be regular letters or written in poetic form. You write your final farewells and anything you may have never said for one reason or another. You can keep it or release it into the world. Sometimes it’s a great tool to use at either the beginning or the end of the grieving process. These letters can be written as a one time event or whenever you feel the need. I hope this letter suggestion helps someone who maybe dealing with a loss of a loved one. Grief isn’t easy but it doesn’t have to be difficult. Maybe death is inevitable, but allow me to leave you with something to ponder–a quote and an impromptu verse from my muse:
“Death ends a life, not a relationship.”–Robert Benchley
Hold the portraits of your loss in the locket that is your heart, breathing in their memory when tears swell in your eyes. For they have not left your side, they reside within!